A cheating spouse can lead to a divorce, and oftentimes, it does. However, there has been a plethora of research done by psychologists and marriage counselors on infidelity. Combined with the practical knowledge from observations by private investigators, what has been found about cheating spouses may help to prevent an occurrence of infidelity in your marriage. Here are some tips to prevent your spouse from cheating on you, and what to do if you suspect they are.

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Learn To Express Your Appreciation For Your Spouse

Cheating is not just about sex. In fact, in the majority of cases, sex is not the primary motivation. Both men and women have a desire to feel appreciated. Most men and women who cheat on their spouse do not do so suddenly. Over time, they begin to feel less appreciated, and eventually meet someone who gives them the attention they feel they deserve. Not taking your spouse for granted can be difficult. This is especially true for a wife, because she may not notice a problem is developing. A man can feel unappreciated, but he may not express this feeling. Men have a habit of keeping things inside. Women, on the other hand, may not be direct enough with a man in communicating their feelings to their husband.

Keep The Lines Of Communication Open

A couple that does not grow together will grow apart. Remember to always communicate with your spouse about anything and everything, and the most important part of communication is the ability to listen. Do not judge your partner’s feelings, but allow him or her express themselves openly. A man or woman who understands that they can talk to their spouse is less likely to cheat. Often a spouse will cheat with someone they have already established a friendship with. Perhaps someone they work with, or someone they see on a daily basis. This person will listen to their problems and make no judgments about them. The sexual relationship comes later and is secondary.

What To Do If You Suspect It Is Too Late

The above tips don’t always work, because some people are inclined to cheat no matter what a spouse does. In other cases, it may be too late to do anything because you already suspect your spouse is cheating. If this is true, you need to use the services of a private investigator. We have the ability to investigate your spouse discreetly to determine if he or she is having an affair. If your suspicions are wrong, you spouse will never know that there was an investigation. However, if your suspicions are correct, we can give you documented evidence of your spouse’s cheating, and then you can decide on what action to take with this evidence.

Although it is common for the partner who was cheated on to blame themselves, you shouldn’t spend any time second guessing about what you could have done differently to prevent your partner from cheating. If you suspect that your spouse is cheating, then give us a call. Let us know exactly why you believe your spouse is cheating. With our experience in investigating a cheating spouse, we can advise you on how we can go about verifying your suspicions.

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Bruce Robertson

Bruce Robertson is a private investigator and founder of Tristar Investigation, California’s premiere detective agency. Bruce is also a media commentator for the investigation industry, featured in the New York Times, CNN, History Channel, MSNBC, Los Angeles Times and many more. You can find him on Google+ LinkedIn and YouTube.